Gift Others Your Attention

Have you ever been in that situation where you don’t particularly want to be talking to someone? I know that sounds harsh, but think about that time when you were in a rush and didn’t have the time or patience to hear about the grocery store attendant’s elaborate lunch. Or when you caught bits of the conversation next to you at a party that you’d much prefer to be part of instead of your current discussion with a political extremist? Or even when you talked to your friend about his relationship issues well into the night and just wanted to go to bed.

We have all been there, and continue to be there. But why don’t we change that? Reframe it? Think about it from the other person’s perspective. What if you were that person and really wanted someone to actively listen and provide feedback of some sort? What if they don’t have anyone else with which to discuss this particular topic? Then think about how much you’re truly sacrificing. Arriving home 10 minutes later than expected, missing out on one fun conversation, losing on an hour of sleep.

Considering the greater scheme of things, what’s more important? Gifting the recipient your attention, or getting exactly what you want? Obviously there are exceptions. If your wife is having a baby, you’re allowed to politely stop the checkout woman from her monologue and let her know that you need to get to the hospital. Otherwise, I encourage you to take a breath and remember that it’s not all about you. Again, I know that sounds harsh, but it’s a reminder I have to give myself more often than I’d like to admit.

For me, it comes down to my idea of our greater purpose in life. Are we here to make sure we achieve maximum comfort on a daily basis, or are we here to support and uplift our peers? I will let you ponder that question.

I am rooting for you!

Bea ❤