Forgive & Love

I am Catholic, but I will be the first to admit that, in my opinion, the Church does not always have it right. But, two of my values

that I truly believe stem from my faith are these powerful ideas of empathy and forgiveness. Let me just throw something out there: it takes less energy to forgive than to hold a grudge. I am not saying it’s easier to initially forgive, especially if the individual does not act in a way that begs your love. But I am claiming that it will sooner rather than later result in an anxiety-releasing, soul-freeing, uplifting catharsis. Yes, you should take the time to vent, analyse, and contemplate the situation. That way you can get it all out and then make the conscious decision to…honestly? Get over it and get on with your life.

Think about it this way: Are you so consumed by and obsessed with this person that you feel the need to harbour anger and talk trash about them? Not only are you going to drive yourself crazy and waste precious energy, but you will also be bringing negative energy into your other relationships, and potentially drive them nuts along the way.

Let me give you an example. I sometimes find myself in between some spats with friends. And because they are upset, they let slip some less positive comments made about me. I could stop them, dig in, and get upset by each person – one for spreading a judgmental comment and the other for stating it in the first place. Instead, I talk (okay complain) to my fiancé about it and then choose to move on. Because I am confident that I didn’t act in a way that harmed anyone, I make the decision to move on. This way, I am not stirring up additional drama between the friends, not bringing negativity into conversations with others, and sleeping better knowing that I am living according to my values.

I do realise I am making this sound easier than it really is, but I believe we all waste so much time drooling over drama, overanalysing perceived tension, and holding a grudge. Let’s grow up, be adults, and find something more productive with which to immerse ourselves. As a result, I truly believe you will feel lighter and happier. I truly believe these actions will set you free.

Let’s work on this together!

Much love,

Bea ❤